EP 62. Practical Tips on How to Love Your Husband God's Way. PT 2

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Now in today's episode, we're going to be continuing our series on how to love your husband God's way.

This is part two and these are some practical ideas and we need to make it a habit to think about these little things that really, they do make a difference all day.

It's easy for us to get caught up in the activities of life and then we forget to do these.

So today we're just gonna, I'm basically gonna give you some tips, women, on how you can be thinking throughout the day how to love your husband God's way.

Well, first of all, you can start by asking yourself, how can I honor my husband and make his life easier for him?

Today in the last episode, I think it was episode 61, three tips how to love your husband God's way.

So today let's pick up on number four.

One of them.

Number four talks about seek your husband's advice and opinions on decisions you're making.

And to you it might be like, you know, that's just a small thing.

But you know what, get him involved in your life a little bit.

You know, like ask him what shoes to wear with a certain outfit.

Maybe you're getting dressed for church and you have choice of two different pairs shoes.

Ask them, hey, dear, what do you think looks the best?

Yeah, but you know, a lot of times the guys will say, I like shoes A and A, maybe that's yellow and.

And you go, okay.

But you end up wearing shoes B.

Well, the red ones.

Yeah, that's what I was gonna say is if he does give his choice of shoes, and you've given him that opportunity to help you pick.

Well, then don't go, oh, well, I'm going to wear the red ones.

You know where.

The ones he picked out for you.

Okay.

Furniture selection.

Wait a minute.

I mean, at least if maybe you.

You make a final decision and say, you know what?

I think shoes b might be better just to say, hey, I really appreciate.

I really appreciated this, but after me debating on it, I just really feel like this is what I want to go with.

Let them know you appreciate it.

Otherwise we can just feel like, well, why?

Why exactly?

Some other things would be like furniture selection.

Well, we're not even going to go there on that one.

Furniture selection.

We'd be here all night talking about that, wouldn't we, dear?

Dinner.

Oh, this is always a biggie with us.

It's like, where would you like to go if we decide we're going to go out to eat?

Where would you like to go to eat?

Well, I want to go here and then the other person wants to go here.

We finally came to the thought to put all the different places we like to eat out at and are budget friendly.

We put them all in a hat or a jar or whatever.

And when we say we're gonna.

How about let's go out to dinner?

Then we pull out one of those places, one of those whatever little note is, and that's where we go instead of taking half of our evening trying to decide where to go.

Problem is if you forget to bring the little hat.

No, you do it before you go, before you leave the house.

Right.

Okay.

That works good in theory and stuff, you know.

Yeah.

You know, even I want to go back to this furniture selection.

Wait, wait.

Okay.

I thought you were you talking about

rearranging the furniture in the house.

Well, you.

That, that's true.

We could be talking about that.

Not purchasing, but rearranging.

So it's just good to ask your husband for input.

Yeah.

Different times.

And those are kind of the.

Not as critical, I think.

The ones you're going to cover up next, I think would really be good.

Yeah.

Another one would be how to handle this situation with your children.

Wait, I'm going to back up to the furniture.

Oh, yeah.

Because sometimes we'll say, well, how do you like it?

Like this.

And there's like, no, I don't like it.

And then you use all your hips power and his muscle power to change a different way, and it ends up right back where it was to begin with.

Right there.

Yeah.

That's usually what happens with us.

A lot of times she'll.

Linda will come up seasonally.

We need to rearrange the furniture in the room.

And I said, we've done that.

There's only so many ways.

I know, but let me just do this.

I mean, let's just try it still.

She still asked, you know, she's asking for my opinion.

And I then.

On the husband's size.

We tried to appease them and say, all right, we'll try it.

Just.

Just to let you try.

Get the tape measure out.

Yes.

To see if it fits.

Because normally if he doesn't, it's.

It's gonna not fit.

How to handle a situation with your children or maybe a family member or a friend, maybe a co worker, you know, get his input on something, ask for.

Because we're taught we.

You may start talking about it, but we don't offer a solution or our opinion.

Right.

Until you ask for.

Yeah.

We need to ask women.

Yeah.

Ask for it.

Yes.

But then you can also tell them, I'm not wanting you to fix it.

Right.

That's the same.

That's thing.

But, you know, you can get their advice.

You can say it nicely.

Yes.

I really don't want you to fix it right now.

Not sarcastically.

Well, sometimes we just need to venture.

Yeah.

And then get your advice and.

Or opinion.

That's fine.

Right.

Or your thoughts.

Right.

On something.

Right, right.

But those are situations, family situations, members, co workers and stuff.

Those are, those are things where our husband can come in with some outside insights when he's asked for it properly.

But allow your.

You allow the husbands to get involved.

Well, the next one is like, and this is all under asking your husband's opinion or, you know, advice.

And this is a biggie.

Women.

Because we're real bad about scheduling our time.

Yeah.

Pacing ourselves, prioritizing, overload ourselves.

And a lot of times we need to.

If someone asks us to do something on our schedule or prioritize our workload or something like that, sometimes we can always say, let me check with my husband how that's going to work out with our schedule, rather than immediately saying, yes, well, ask your husband, how's this going to work?

And then ask him to help you prioritize your workload.

Yeah.

You know, they see things so totally.

And then they see how wore out we are because we did overload ourselves because we did commit to too much.

So that's a biggie, in my opinion, is get your husband's input on that.

Yeah.

Just say, hey, can you Take a look at my schedule this week.

I'm feeling kind of.

I'm just beginning to feel overwhelmed.

Can you see anything here I'm missing or some ways I could change this out or what do you think for you?

What is a priority for the things I'm working on for me to try to tackle so I won't work on the wrong thing and this, this ask and let him give his input in that and such.

And most men, you know, again, we're kind of say, well, don't butt in if you're not being asked.

But sometimes as men as kind of help and lead in the house, sometimes we may notice something, we may go ahead and stick our nose in it because we feel like it's, it's something that's vital.

And so that's when you got to be open to that.

Right?

That's right.

Women and, you know, sometimes they can.

Greg is real good about saying, can that be put off till next week?

Right.

Like if it's a doctor's appointment, can that be put off?

Like say I have two or three doctor's appointment in one week.

That is like major overload along with the rest of life activities.

Right, right.

Is that something that you could put off until next week?

He's real good about that.

So men, you know, you get little

tips along the second set of eyes on the situation.

That's right.

That's really good.

So don't feel like you're less than or whatever.

You're just asking for an opinion and wisdom and direction and you know, our

men love to help us out.

They do.

Yeah.

They really do.

Ain't something else.

This, not directly with that, but ask your husband to pray with you sometimes if you're going to make a decision, especially if he's not one who's generally a prayer on his own or not prone to try to pray.

Will you pray with me about this today?

But I got to make this decision and just draw him in that way and let him get involved.

And who knows, he may begin to do it more and more and more without even being asked to pray.

I don't think anybody ever feels threatened if somebody says, hey, will you pray for me?

Well, you know, that goes back to the thing about if you have a situation going on with your kids or a co worker, family member, if you ask her husband to pray and you, you know, that's really honoring your husband.

Yes.

So to speak.

I would say ask him to pray about something like that.

So let's move on to another tip.

Tip Number five, remember the little things that are special to your husband.

Such things as, like his desires or maybe he's had past requests, that kind of stuff, like his favorite meal or a dessert or maybe he mentions to you a certain game that he's wanting to watch, a Monday Night Football game or whatever.

The.

If you remember that, that would be great.

Then to just, you know, give him that time where he can have his football game.

Or if he is dieting and exercising, how about honoring his efforts?

Yeah.

During the diet and exercise time, are you maybe on a certain eating program and you're bringing Oreo cookies into the house and he's having to look at them and go, say that again.

I don't remember what I just said.

Okay.

About Oreo cookies.

Okay.

You know, you said something about his favorite meal that might be celebrate meal is not a meal that would go with this diet.

You may not want to do it right at that moment or ask him if you'd like.

Yeah, yeah.

But these are just little things that lets you.

Lets him know that you are loving him.

And if he's wanting to go to the gym, well, don't schedule something with another couple or, you know, just something for, you know, you want him to take you out shopping or something like that.

But he's wanting to get to the gym and his time's very limited.

Well, let.

Let them have that time, you know, where he can get to the gym.

You know, and this has popped in my mind because my mind's thinking, you know, again, a lot of the people that are listening are younger and they've got maybe two or three kids at home or just one.

And you're thinking, how in the world am I going to do all of this with everything that's going on?

That's where you got to come back and be intentional, a habit.

And to say, you know what, at least one meal this week.

I'm going to make what my honey wants to have and not what the kids want to have.

Right.

It's little things like that.

Say, you know what, that game's coming on on Monday night, and I'm going to make sure the kids are in bed that night early.

They're going to be quiet.

So there's little things.

Yes.

That's what makes this stuff even more important and more more impactful on your.

On your spouse, because they hopefully they're aware of what your life is like and they're trying to help you have an easier life and make you feel special.

But when they know you, how busy you Are.

And you do that one little thing, man, that can make all the difference in the world.

Yeah, that's good.

Also, this is something Greg and I have always done for each other.

Butter his toothbrush.

Now, a lot of you may not understand what that means, but, like, ooh, butter his toothbrush.

Yuck.

No, that.

What that means is go and we'll find his toothbrush and put toothpaste on it, because he hopefully is brushing his teeth in the morning and.

And at night before he goes to bed.

That could be a hint that you need to brush.

Don't take it the wrong way, guys, you know, but.

So butter his toothbrush.

And toothbrush.

And I would always leave.

Usually I'll leave a little note, you know, thanks for all the hard work, or thanks for taking the trash out, or thanks for going to work today when it's not something of your favorite thing to do, you know, Always leave a little note along with his toothbrush that has toothpaste on it ready for him to grab and go.

Yeah.

Linda started doing that years ago.

I mean, years and years ago.

We've been married 48 years, and some of y' all don't know that, but for 48 years.

And she started doing that pretty early.

And I remember the first time she did that, and I walked in and there was toothpaste on my toothbrush.

And then she kept doing it.

And then after a while, I said, it's pretty nice.

It saves me a couple minutes, you know, But I.

Then one night I came in there and my toothbrush wasn't.

Wasn't buttered.

And I go walk through the house going, you didn't butter my toothbrush tonight.

You know, so little things like that, it can become a tradition.

Yeah.

Another thing is take interest in his hobbies.

Yes.

Ask.

Maybe say, I cannot believe he's going to go out and work and do this little woodworking thing or something.

Maybe because, you know, whatever your opinion of it is to say, how's it going?

What are you making?

How's that hobby?

Or what?

He has a Bible study time.

Take interest in that and say, hey, what.

What did you get out of your Bible study this week?

You know, just ask them and just.

That lets you know you're thinking about him and you're interested in his life.

Yeah, I think that's good.

Now, this is one thing, remember, maybe you're looking at doing these little things and you want to make his life easier or whatever.

Remember things that he may not want you to do.

Oh, okay.

And I'll Speak a little bit.

I remember when I was a youth pastor, I had an office and we had gone out of town.

Linda couldn't go because I think she was pregnant or just had our.

Our one of our children.

And I was out of town for three or four days on a ski trip taking the youth out, and they came back in, and I went into my office at the youth.

My youth pastor's office, and everything was rearranged.

Everything was rearranged, even the pictures on the wall.

And I was like, what in the world happened?

Did I paint your office?

No, you didn't paint problem furniture.

But she just rearranged things.

And I liked it the way it was, and probably in the long run, it was probably better.

But the fact that she came in and rearranged something.

And if your.

Your husband's sloppy, don't come in and change his desk or tools around or wherever.

Shut the door.

Women, you can let him.

If, you know, they like that then.

Because what happens, you straighten up the stuff that's sloppy, and that's probably me.

We get work, they know where it is, you know, Or I've come in at times, and all of a sudden my phone apps are changed around or my screen savers changed on my phone, and I like the one that was on there, you know, so try not to invade the space too much.

If you know something is like, kind of like, I ought not touch that, then maybe you ought not touch that, even if you think it's a better idea or he's gonna like it.

And chances are it's usually when London makes a change, it's usually better.

And after you get over the emotional trauma of not being able to find your stapler because it used to be under all these papers over here, you're usually thankful for it.

So that's just something.

If he's a neat freak on.

If you're the sloppy one and he's a neat freak, then honor his neatness.

All right, that's true.

Yeah.

You could turn the phone a certain way and freak a neat freak out because they have to have it a certain way.

You know, it's really funny little things like this, but it really does make a difference that you have set up to sticking to your budget, you know, like make, you know, maybe you have a certain amount of money everybody's okay with to spend without checking on the budget.

But before you purchase a major item of any sort of.

Well, always check with him, you know, so that you can be sure you're sticking with the budget.

Another One is stay off the phone while.

When he's home or if he's, you know, he's fixing to be home, make sure.

Or if you're on the phone and you need to complete a conversation about something, make sure it's a short conversation.

Don't just get on there talking to mom or your sister or your girlfriends when he's home and it's your time together.

Okay.

Yeah.

So was there anything on any of that that you'd like to add it?

I just think about all the stuff we're sharing.

Usually, other than a few areas, all these really apply, male and female.

They do.

All right.

You know, so.

But this one happens to be for the ladies, because we did take.

If you missed them, some.

Some of the ladies will think, well, you need to talk to the men.

Well, we did.

We taught.

We had four or five episodes, I believe, on how to treasure your wife.

Ladies, brag on your husband.

And you know what?

You can brag on him if he's there, and you can brag on him if he's not there.

You know, and you used to do that when you were dating.

So why change just because you got married?

That's right.

We watched a movie.

It's called Just Married.

It was like, what, 40 years ago?

2003.

2003.

And it's like they were saying, if you get married, it's gonna all change and you don't do anything.

Like you did.

But that is so wrong.

I am like, you should be even more doing more stuff now that you're married.

Yeah.

When you brag on your future spouse before you get married, everybody's going, yeah, right.

You just wait.

What's awesome is when you can you start bragging on your spouse after you've been married for six months, two years, five years.

Yes.

48 years.

That you're saying this and people are going, really?

Yeah.

You know, and.

And so brag on them.

Brag on them.

You know, like something.

Catch them doing something good.

Right, I'm doing something good.

Exactly.

And then, you know, you can of something that they're doing and we don't ever tell them, you know, like, I just.

I love it.

Especially in front of their friends.

Your friends and your family members.

Yes, exactly.

And, you know, Greg will open the door for me all the time.

He's really good about that.

And, you know, but when he opens the door for another woman, that blesses me, you know, that he would take the time and be, you know, willing to help out, like, say somebody, even a Handicapped person.

I've seen him go out of his way to help somebody that's handicapped, that needs some assistance.

He has just been done above and beyond.

And that always just blesses me to see him helping other people, you know, or you know, you can say to your co workers that your husband gave you flowers today.

You know, it's okay.

They're going to be jealous.

Yeah, probably, you know, but that's okay.

Or that he cleaned the kitchen or maybe he sent you out to shop without children.

Or maybe he took your car and washed it and filled it up.

You know, these are little things that he might be doing.

Well, let him know about it and then brag on to your family and friends like Greg said to just let him know, let them know how special

he is to you, you know, and that it's really vital.

Because when you think about it, when you get around, even at church, at work, or you're out with some friends, what is the main thing that usually gets talked about?

Marriage.

Jokes about the husband or jokes about the wife or people just making light of how their marriage is not doing good or all the problems they're having.

I'll tell you what, it just all of a sudden stops everybody and say, my husband did this.

Or yeah, or somebody say, they're talking.

Maybe they're saying, man, and I know ladies will talk about this and guys sometimes will say, you know what?

Our sex life has just gone out the window lately.

And if you just sit there and go, well, and you give them a big old grin and say, I don't know about that one, you, you're gonna stop them.

People need to hear things that are

going right, things that are going good in your.

That's how we let our light shine.

Yes, that is true.

That is how we let our light shine.

You know, like I think about my brother in law, he is so good about just sending flowers to my sister, you know, and it's like, wow, he is just.

Yeah, like thanks a lot, Gary.

Puts a little pressure on Greg.

No, that's okay.

Greg can just hand me money.

I'm blessed.

Because Linda, she, she loves flowers.

But because of her smeller and her sensitivity, she can't.

She if right by her flowers or, and I set them out and she can't smell them, they're going to be moved somewhere else or out in the trash.

That's why she says, just give me cash.

Yeah.

Or I take red roses.

Oh, red roses.

Yes, they work.

Okay, well, let's move on to the next one.

Make an effort to study and gain an appreciation for the work that he does.

And you know what, ladies we're talking about, like if he's works outside the home with his company, you know, put yourself in his shoes for the day and try to understand how important he feels about his job responsibilities.

Or if he's, you know, not real happy with his job, put yourself in his shoes for the day and try to, you know, point out about how valuable he may be to his company.

You know, and even if he's self employed, listen to your employees that are surrounding him and just to hear their comments about how much he loves them, you know, how much they love having him as the boss and then tell him what you heard, you know, make sure it's good, you know, right.

And, and then, you know, then let them know that because they're not going to tell him, oh, you're the best boss in the whole world.

Not often.

You know, sometimes that does happen.

You know, like we had somebody that we ran into that when we were self employed with a pretty big cleaning business here and several employees.

We just ran into her the other day and she's like, oh, how are y' all doing?

And she is like, you were the best boss in the world to have.

Which I knew that, but she was commenting on that to him several, that's several years ago that, that was that she was employed by us.

So, you know, that is something that really does make a difference for our husband's women.

And you know, and you know, the more you learn about their job, ask what I think Linda was going to share.

I may have jumped up on this, but we've, we've talked to people, especially wives, and they'll go, I don't even know what he does.

That's, that's not good.

You need to find out what type of work your husband does so you can encourage a minute as Linda's bringing out, appreciate what he does and say, man, I don't know how you do that.

I don't know how you put up with that type of boss or these employees or, or the pressure to have to meet those deadlines all the time.

And then you'll know how to talk to him and encourage him.

Let me rub your back because man, after a day like you had and then that's gonna, what you do to others is going to come back to you.

So remember, we're talking about a two way street here.

I just remember and I'm not going to go into the whole story, but for one summer I was home from Work we're doing married.

And it was families of destiny back then.

We had.

I had stopped working in a job and I was home for three months taking care of the kids during the summer and had to do everything that Linda did.

And I got a great appreciation for stay at home moms that were home during the day, they worked their butts off.

I was so glad when school started back up, you know, and I got a greater appreciation.

Now you can't go do your husband's job.

He.

Such insight on how you can minister to him and get a taste of what he's going through in his day.

That's right.

Now on the flip side of all that, you want to be careful not to be digging where he would begin to think that you're.

You're questioning his ability to support you.

You know, you gotta watch that you don't overdo all of that, but just enough, you know, ask the Lord to give you a balance in all of that.

That's good way to do it.

Yeah.

Also, be sensitive that when your husband comes home from work, or maybe both y' all work, you know, and you've had a hard day, he's had a hard day, whatever.

It's.

And you're ready to just chill out, you know, don't pounce on your husband immediately when he comes in the door or when you come in the door, don't pounce on him letting you know everything that went on outside the home, everything that went on inside the home.

Maybe it's.

You got a call from the principal for one of your kids and, and you know, he needs to hear about it or, you know, I mean, even positive stuff.

Maybe, you know, you just got the schedule for the sports activities that are going to happen during the weekend, and he needs to match his calendar up with yours.

You know, we'll give your husband a chance to breathe, you know, to decompress from the day.

And before you get into all the events that have occurred during that day, that day.

Yeah.

And hopefully both, especially if both of y' all work, right.

Y' all have kind of got a routine when you get home, you're working together as a team.

And if that's not there, then just keep praying and, and speaking and, and.

Well, listen to our episode about team effort.

Yeah, listen on team effort.

But, but, and, and still be aware of each other, even if you have a routine going.

Because maybe one day your day was real easy at work, but you notice your husband had an extra tough day.

Well, that's where maybe you can Say, you know what?

I'm going to take care of this over here also today so you can rest for a right.

Let just go with the flow.

Have your antenna on to see what each of you need and how to respond.

Yeah, that's good.

So, well, we're gonna cover more tips on part three.

That's going to be episode 63.

But in closing.

What.

What was it?

I was going to share a couple things here.

Romans 12:10 says.

It says, be devoted to one another in love.

And this is what this is about.

You're being.

For the wives.

You're being devoted to your.

To your husband in love.

Doing all these tips that Linda's talking about is.

Is putting on love as we've talked about in previous episodes.

And men, if you've snuck in and you're listening to see what they're learning, this is speaking to you, too.

Be devoted to one another in love.

It says, honor one another above yourselves.

And that's what love is all about.

And that's how you can be married and love it.

But there's a scripture I want to read also in Proverbs 31, 10 through 27, I believe.

But first I want to read a quote that sums up a little bit of what we're talking about and about what Proverbs 31 is almost saying.

And it's from a book with Elaine Creedman.

She's the one that quoted this.

And I like this survey.

She did a little survey and she.

This is really good.

She says the majority of men that I have interviewed, whether they were married or even single, agreed that they felt captivated.

Captivated.

You don't hear that word used a lot for somebody being in love, captivated by that special woman.

Ladies, if you're married in here, you're that special woman.

That's what God wants.

That special woman who was able to make them feel stronger, more capable, more intelligent, sexier, or more knowledgeable than they had ever felt about themselves before these women came into their lives.

You know, that's our goal for you to.

For your husband to be captivated by you because of this, or for the men to be.

Are you to be captivated by your husband?

But again, that's a different topic.

So Proverbs 31 says, Starting around verse 10.

These are just scattered the rest of the chapter there.

A capable, intelligent and virtuous woman.

Who is.

Who is he who can find her?

That's your husband when he found you.

She's more far precious than jewels, and her value is far above rubies.

And pearls, wives.

I'm just telling you right now, you are the virtuous woman.

You are more valuable than diamonds and jewels.

See yourself that way and your husband will see yourself that way.

And as you minister to him, he's really going to be saying, oh, she is valuable.

It says the heart of her husband trusts confidently in and relies on her and he believes in her securely.

See, as you're doing these things, these tips that Linda has been sharing, he's going to have confidence you and he, he's going to be trusting in you.

And it says she encourages, comforts and does him only good as long as there's life within her.

That's her goal.

Yes, you got kids?

She may have a boss, but husband is number one priority.

Verse 25 goes on to say, strength and dignity are her clothing.

Her position is strong and secure.

She knows who she is as a wife, as a, as a mom.

And if she's working outside the home or whatever, she knows who she is.

But her number one priority is taking care of her family and her husband.

Number one, of course, always the Lord.

She rejoices in the future, the latter day and time to come.

And she smiles at the future because she's planning, she's.

She's got her home in order.

And it says in verse 26, she opens her mouth in skillful and godly wisdom, and we've talked about in previous episodes becoming skillful and putting on love.

So she knows how to love her husband.

She knows how to take care of it.

She's got wisdom, God's helping her.

And on her tongue is the law of kindness.

Kindness, that's the key.

Being kind to one another.

And she gives counsel and instruction.

That's the gift you are to your spouse.

Then it says, she looks well to how things go in her household.

The bread of idleness, gossip, discontent and self pity she will not eat.

She's being spirit controlled and she looks well.

That's what a wife is doing when she's doing these things that Linda's saying.

She's not babysitting, she's not trying to suck up to her husband.

She's taking care of her household and her husband's part of it and he's part of her mission is to take care of him in all these different ways.

But look what happens when a wife is doing this.

Her children rise up and call her blessed, fortunate to be envied.

And her husband who's sitting at the gates comes on and says, and her.

And it says her husband both loves and praises her.

And guys, if you're listening, your wife needs to hear it.

Maybe you want her to brag on you, but you need to brag on her to her, to your kids and the people around her.

Because she's your precious and valuable jewel and her best interest is going after you.

So you, you best be praising her because she excels them all.

So ladies, remember that you're special.

Thank you dear.

I appreciate that.

Anyways, well, a couple honey do's to look at for this week until our next episode comes out is basically the same Pick one of the tips that we talked about today.

Think about how can you improve on one of those tips?

Or what can you do to bless your husband?

What can you do to honor your husband?

And then as always, what is the second 10 second kiss?

And since we're kind of talking more to the ladies tonight.

So ladies in the morning, or maybe when your man comes home or you walk in the door and he's already home, say hey, time for our 10 second kiss.

Come on over here you hunk of burning love.

I'm gonna give you a good 10 second kiss and set your timer and plant one on them.

Maybe it'll go longer, who knows, Never know.

But give them that 10 second kiss.

Well, we're good.

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