EP 44. Ten Steps to Treasuring Your Wife PT5; By Protecting Her, By Spending Time Alone with Her

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Yep.

10 steps to treasuring your wife.

And this is part five.

Just a little review.

We've been discussing those 10 steps and we've gotten through to step number eight.

And so I'm just going to list them off real quick, but you could go back to episodes 40 through 43 and we break each one down a little bit more.

So go back and listen to them to catch up with it all.

Number one, love your wife.

That's a good one.

I like that.

Yes, yes.

Number two, develop a passion to meet your wife's needs.

Number three, understand your wife.

Number four, praise her.

Be her number one fan.

Number five, express affection toward your wife.

Number six, keep yourself fit.

That would be spirit, soul and body.

Number seven, show her honor by your actions.

So.

And number eight, commit to her personal growth and desires and health.

All right, that sounds good.

So if you haven't heard any of those yet, go back and listen.

Starts on episode 40 through 43.

So we encourage you to to do that.

I think you'll enjoy them and pray.

So go back and listen to those podcasts.

But we are our definition that we've been using for treasure is something that is very much to value and that's what we're trying to get across men that our wives are to be valued.

And like I and I've mentioned it last week, I think and I'm going to do it again this week.

Years ago, I showed Linda.

I demonstrated to her on this one particular night that softball was More important to me than her health because I went out, played a softball game.

I was involved with a triple play, greatest game of my life, went home, told her about it, and she couldn't talk because her mouth was full of cotton swabs and blood and all that type of stuff.

She had four wisdom teeth pulled that day.

And I chose to go out, be committed to a team that hardly had enough people to play, usually to play softball, because I was loyal.

I was committed to that team.

What.

What message did I give to her?

I was more committed to a team of guys running around a base than to her being home, helping her get through getting four wisdom teeth pulled.

So I didn't demonstrate much value towards her that night.

So that's what we're going to be talking about in a couple of ways.

And I want to add another word to that, and that is chairs.

Because in Ephesians 5:28, it says to cherish your wife.

Husbands.

It says, to cherish.

And that means we're to hold our wife dear.

We're to fill or show affection for.

We're to nurture her, which means to provide an atmosphere, growth, and to make sure she's growing and developing.

In other words, to invest into her, to keep or to cultivate with care or affection, to appreciate.

And that what.

That's what God is calling us to do.

When you said, I do, husband, you put your hands in her hands and said, you know what?

I'm going to treasure you and I'm going to value.

Value you for the rest of your life.

So that's what we're talking about now.

What I want to do is read an article that talks about this.

So just hold on for a moment because I'm going to read and I think you're really going to enjoy this.

And it's got a message to it.

It's called.

And I do not remember where I got this from.

It could have been from a book or an article I read.

But it's called How a Military Officer Loved His Wife out of a Mental Hospital.

Man.

See, we need to realize how we value how we treat and respond to our wives.

Can even affect their health.

So here.

Here he is.

The psychiatrist had prescribed to this military officer that that his wife be admitted to the local mental hospital.

He was stunned and challenged, but had no idea how to help her.

He sought counsel from the chaplain and learned he should allow his wife to sit in his lap and share her true feelings about him.

He followed this advice with great difficulty because it hurt to hear the Things that she said he was doing to weaken their marriage.

As she was talking, the telephone rang and he felt saved by the bell.

She was angry because she thought he would probably not return.

But she overheard one statement he made that not only kept her from a breakdown, but prompted her to slip into a nightgown.

A nightgown and actually desire to arouse him, something she had not done in years.

After the call, she calmly snuggled back into his lap.

What had he said to his commanding officer?

He simply asked, sir, could someone else take that assignment tonight?

I'm in the middle of a very important time with my wife.

It's serious, and I really don't want to leave.

At this point, that military officer had begun to prove to his wife that she was of high value to him.

As a result, her mental condition stabilized and she never had to go to the hospital.

Wow, that's powerful.

I know it is.

Whether it's a husband or wife, even how what we say, what we do, how we treat our spouses can affect them mentally, physically and spiritually.

So that's what we're going to get into the last two tonight.

It's really going to be good.

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Now we're going to get into the to the last two right now.

So let's do that.

Number nine is protect your wife when you're treasure your wife.

What you're going to be doing is protecting.

Protecting her.

And there's a lot of different areas to protect.

We're going to get into that, but first I want to share a couple Bible examples for you.

And you've probably heard this before.

Everybody remembers the original husband.

He didn't even have the marriage busters coming against him, really, but he did have one.

But what happened?

If you know the story, him and Eve, Adam and Eve were in the garden, and the serpent came in and tempted Eve, and then she fed the.

The apple or the fruit of life to.

To Adam, and he ate it.

And God came in and they got in trouble.

Adam did not protect his wife.

Adam was responsible to protect that garden, to keep the enemy out.

So when he didn't do that, he set his wife up for failure.

And then what did he do?

Like most people do, he blamed it on God.

And.

And Eve, when he fell, he said, God, if you hadn't given me this wife, and if she hadn't ate an apple, I wouldn't have.

I'd be fine.

But see, what he did, he didn't protect.

He didn't do his job.

He let the enemy come in.

Then there's Abraham and Isaac.

Here you have a case of the father having a.

A problem, and they transferred it down to his son through the years.

Generational curses, if you want to call that.

But what did Adam do?

And Abraham.

I'm sorry, Abraham.

Abraham.

Abraham.

Too many A's here.

Abraham and Isaac did the same thing.

They were traveling around, and they came into another land with other kings.

And they both had hot wives.

And they said, hey, go tell them that you're my sister.

That way they won't kill me.

So what did these wives do?

They went in there and their hero lied and they put their wives in danger.

And then when the kings found out it.

They were found out about it, they were pretty ticked because they didn't want God getting on them for sleeping with their wives.

So these guys did not protect their wives.

And then finally, there's another guy.

His name is Elkanah.

I'm going to call him Elk for short.

Okay, he had two wives.

Now, that's tough enough right there.

But he had two eyes.

One was Hannah, and the other one, I'm going to give her name, Penny, because I can't say her other name right now.

Hannah had no kids, and Penny had all the kids.

Now, it says in the word there, this is in First Samuel, chapter one, that Elk loved Hannah.

He'd even bless her with other things.

He doesn't say he loved Penny, but the thing is Penny was the one providing all the offspring and Hannah could not have babies.

Hannah, I mean, Penny would come around to Hannah and ridicule her and make fun of her because she couldn't have the children.

And that ended up putting Hannah into depression.

She felt bad.

It attacked her self esteem.

She had been.

She just felt bad.

And what happened, eventually she did, was able to have a kid because a God worked in her life.

But the point being here is Elk, he came in and again, that's not the exact pronunciation of that name.

He didn't protect her.

He said he should have gone to Penny and said, you don't come in and talk to Hannah like that.

She's my wife.

Also that sounds weird, but you don't come in.

You don't come in and talk to her like that.

He should have protected Hannah.

And that what happened is she almost went into depression and had different things going on.

Because what happened, her man, her hero, who said he loved her.

See, we can be saying we love our spouses, but here it comes back again.

Our actions speak louder than words.

That's true.

Very true.

When we cherish something, we want to protect it.

And these examples that we just went through were not protecting their wives.

A wife needs you, a husband who will understand her fears and limitations so that you can take action and protect her.

And you know women, there's a lot of times we don't even realize that we need protection.

And the men may recognize it.

So they need to step in guys, and provide that protection for us.

Now, on the other hand, you want to watch men that you are not smothering your wife.

Yes.

Or hovering over her like a mother hen, because that could happen as well.

But here's just a few areas that we as women need protection.

One thing for sure is we over schedule our life.

We over commit, really.

And yes, that does happen.

And we need you guys to step in and just point this out to us and help us to not be over scheduling.

Whether it's with, I don't know, all birthday parties or you know, stuff at church or over scheduling, you know, things at work where, as if you're working outside the home, women and your co workers are wanting to, you know, get you involved in doing activities or something of that sort.

Volunteer for the PTA meeting.

That's right.

Then you're the soccer mom and you volunteer to bring the.

All the goodies.

All the goodies.

And that weekend you got three or four birthday parties for your Your kids or you volunteer for something at church or for another organization that you're part of.

Husbands come in and help your wife say, hey, I think you're going a little bit too much.

How can.

What can we tweak right here?

Yeah.

Because when people get overbooked, they begin.

Begin to get what?

Fatigue, Tired.

And we have a hard time saying no.

That's right.

You know, and this is the example that comes to me.

Okay.

Did you ever wish.

Okay.

As say you're a teenager and your group of teenagers are wanting you to go out partying, but you really don't want to go.

There's a reason that you don't want to go, but you don't feel comfortable telling your friends, your peers no.

So you go to your dad and you say, dad, will you tell them that you're not going to let me go?

You know, or you step in and you protect me, dad.

That's a daughter and father relationship.

But so similar is husband, wife.

A lot of times we don't know how to say no politely, especially if.

You'Re a high driven person.

If you're high driven, that really makes it hard.

Or you got a problem.

People pleasing.

That's exactly.

Wow, that is a good point.

People pleasing.

You got that for sure.

So, men, thank you for protecting, showing that you honor your wife, that you truly treasure your wife by protecting us and saying, that's a little much.

And we can then go to whatever the situation may be and say, you know, my husband and I talked about it and he feels like that might be too much for us for me to take on.

Yeah.

So no.

That one little word.

Or you could just say, you know, you don't have to necessarily say the husband said this, but you can just say, you know, I just did some evaluation.

I just really need to back off of this.

Yes.

More than I can handle for us, for husbands.

Husbands.

It's not us trying to lord it over you or try to tell you how to run your life.

It's to make observations and say, hey, have you thought about this?

I really concerned about your health right now because you're going and going and going.

Yes.

So as a mean of protection, say, hey, how.

What can we do to cut back on some of these activities or your workload or whatever.

We're going to go over some more examples so it's not lording over.

You're there to come alongside your wife and just say, hey, what about this?

Give them an extra, a bird's eye view of what's going on so they can make better situations.

Very good.

Better adjustments.

That's good.

That's very good.

Now a lot of times maybe the kids are being unruly and the men need to step in and not allow the kids to be ugly or talk rude to their mom, you know, and then disrespect.

Disrespect.

That's true.

They're not honoring their mom.

And also unrealistic self expectations.

Yeah.

That we're real bad as women about that poor self esteem.

Yes.

Guys, we need to build up our spouse.

If she's expressing, she's not believing in herself.

If she's just not feeling, she feels like a failure because she can't keep her schedule.

So therefore she feels like she's a failure.

So I. I'm a mom.

I can't do all these things for the kids and I can't do that.

I feel like I'm letting my kids down.

I feel like I'm letting people at church down.

I feel like I'm letting you down.

You know, I just.

Well, that's when we got to come in and build her up.

Say, dear, I love you.

You're doing awesome.

I'm not expecting you to do all this stuff.

Matter of fact, if you just help me, maybe I can help you with that.

But you know what?

You are an awesome wife and you're an awesome mom and you're doing a great job, but maybe sometimes you do have to slow down because you're overestimating your time or your abilities in certain areas.

So it ends up a.

Fatigue sneaks in there.

Yeah.

That marriage buster.

Yeah.

Of fatigue, you know, so if we can let our husband step in a little bit and like Greg said, give us a different viewpoint on it.

Yeah, that really does help.

Maybe there's too much housework.

And even if both of y' all are working together as a team on the housework, maybe it's time to evaluate if you need to bring somebody in to clean your house.

If you're able to do that.

These are just little areas.

Yeah, if you've got the finances.

Yeah.

If you've got finances and you can afford to pay somebody to come in once a month or every other week just to go through and clean your house, that's going to free up so much time for your wife or for both of you guys to do the things you want to do and have more time together.

Because I know a lot of you, you could probably afford that.

I know there's a lot of you that can't.

So Housework may have to be a teamwork, but that's when husband, you come in and say, hey, what can we do to get this house clean?

Can I.

Can we get somebody to come in?

I think we can afford that.

Maybe we quit doing this over here because that time that you save is so valuable.

That is a great way to protect us men.

And then, yeah, keeping your.

Your wife away from negative, negative people.

You know, if there's people, if other family members are negative towards her or she's just around negative people that cause her to think negative, try to keep her away from or say, hey, you know, I don't know if sister Susie over here is doing real good because all she does is gossip all the time or people that she gets around, people that are just negative about life and.

And what's going on in the world.

Well, you know what?

You need to pull her away and say, hey, how about let's get around some other people that are more positive and stuff, but get her away from negative people and dangerous situations.

Guys, you see what's going on in the world right now.

If your wife likes going running at night in the dark, you know, maybe you need to say, that's not a good day, or all.

Or, here you go, guys.

Say, I'll go running with you.

Oh, wow.

Yeah, that's a big.

That might test your manhood right there.

Watch out for dangerous situation.

Don't send her out to get gas at night.

You go get the gas.

That's right.

You go get that ice cream she's looking for instead of her going to the grocery store, store.

But think, just think, you know, what situations she faces, right?

Fatigue.

I mean, we don't even recognize.

Sometimes we get so tired.

That's that crazy, busy, chaotic, busy schedule.

We don't even realize what's happening.

Men, help us out there, help us to recognize it and say, hey, you know what?

You get yourself to bed early.

I saw this little reel on Facebook where there was the children, the husband and the wife, and the husband said to the kids, whoever makes a mess, the first person to make a mess, I'm sending you right to bed.

Well, the wife started throwing everything around and making a big mess so she could go to bed.

I thought that was so cute.

No, I don't need to.

But that is what that really told a message.

That really put a message out there.

So let's see, what else do you think of?

Well, don't deal with ish, but you need to deal with issues that are important to her.

Keep her Away from stress.

You see her stress.

You know, husbands, you got to be aware of what's going on in your wife's life.

So she's got stress going on.

Help her with that again.

Pray over her.

Linda mentioned this, I think, earlier.

Help her to know how to say no.

If she's asking for input, guys, give her input.

And again, make sure you've got the kids under control and that they're respecting her and set the spiritual atmosphere in the home, because that's going to protect her.

You know, there's a song out there by.

I can't remember his name.

It's the Robin Hood years ago, the Robin Hood song.

And they had that song.

He says, I'll die for you, I'll fight for you, I'll protect you and all that.

Well, fortunately, guys, today in most places, we don't got to go out and literally die for our spouse and go hunting and get food and fight off the bad guys all the time.

Now, if you live in some of these cities today, that might be a problem.

No, I'm not trying to get political.

But you know what?

People are.

A lot of these wives are scared to go out, right?

So you need to control that.

Help her with.

If that's the situation you're in.

That's really.

That's more true than it is than.

Than what it would be in the movies.

But God's just put you in place to provide an area of protection for your wife.

So ask her, what areas do you feel like I'm not protecting you?

What can I do to create a safe environment?

Maybe it's keeping her more updated on the finances.

If you're not doing that, whatever it is, maybe it's health issues.

Maybe she's.

She needs to be protected with their health and stuff.

First Peter 5:7 says, Be on the alert.

The enemy is seeking whom he can destroy.

The devil rolls roaming around, looking.

Well, guys, it says be.

He's talking to all of us, but he's talking to us as husbands in our homes.

You need to be the watchman.

You need to be watching on how you can protect your woman, because that's what he's called you to do.

And I'll tell you what, it always feels good.

You walk in the room and she goes, my hero.

Because why you're protecting her, you're providing for.

You are treasuring her.

Let's move on to the next one.

It's called spend time alone.

Back up real quick.

On the first Peter being on the alert.

Protect your wife by being A step ahead.

Oh, yeah.

You know, anticipate problems before they come.

Be proactive.

Yes.

Handle them.

Praying over her.

Praying over.

Praying for her protection.

You know, when she goes out, if it's just a.

When you're getting that 10 second kiss that we talk about, you just take half a second and you say, thank you, Lord, for watching over my life.

The prayer, protection.

Ask God for wisdom in all these areas.

Being there when she needs you.

Yeah, you know, that is so huge.

But let's go ahead and move on.

Unless you had something you want.

Yeah.

Spend time alone with her.

This ought to be one you want to do.

That's so true.

She wants you men.

Your wife wants you.

That's right.

You know, we hear that Uncle Sam wants you with them, finger pointing at you.

We see that in all the commercials all the time.

Well, look at.

Your wife is pointing her finger at you and saying, I want you.

My man, my hero.

Linda's pointing her finger at me right now.

Well, and another way is to give her your undivided attention.

What does that mean?

It means put down your device, put down the gaming video, put that remote down and turn the TV off.

That undivided attention.

See, nowadays we've taught this in the past.

Turn.

Don't watch TV while your wife's trying to talk to you.

Or years ago, you didn't have a dvr.

You didn't even have a vcr.

So if you missed the show, you didn't see it for six months to a year that they did reruns at least now, guys, we can pause it or record it and we can look over at our wife.

See, you got to think about these things.

There's ways to do it, right?

See, she wants you to set time aside for her alone.

Not with your friends.

She doesn't mind going out with and having double dates or doing things like that.

But sometimes they just.

She just wants to be alone with you, you big old hunk of man.

She just wants to be with you.

Not with the kids even, or other families.

So you got to set that time.

See, she wants to be more than just a bed partner or a roommate or somebody who provides extra income.

You know, guys, if the only time you want time alone time with your wife is to have sex, to make love, probably.

If that's the case, you're probably just having sex because you know what happens if that's what you're doing on a regular basis.

At least the heart core situations.

I know not everybody's like this, but your wife can begin to feel like a prostitute.

That's true.

Because the only time she feels like you want to be around her is to have sex.

So we need to work on that, spend time alone with her.

So what else we got here?

She wants to be your best friend and your companion.

She wants to know that's how you feel about her.

So that.

But what, Greg, just covered covers and shows all that?

Yeah.

And material things are not a big.

Well, I can't say for all matter, but material things matter.

But she.

If you're gone all the time working.

Yeah, money's nice and that's okay, but a workaholic, not so nice.

No, no.

Right.

Make sure your priorities are in order.

That would be God and her, then family, then your work.

But her, she's your number one priority.

Give her that quality time.

Yes.

The that she's looking for.

Spend time talking and listening.

Set time aside for her communication with you.

That's important to her.

She needs to know by you doing this that you cherish her.

Some of those ways are to have some dates to maybe go sit in the yard together.

Go out for lunch, dinner or breakfast, or all three.

A walk's a great timer lately.

Yeah.

When you got some nice grass, put your feet in, go sit down out somewhere in the tree and just put.

Your feet in the grasshopper.

Yes.

There you go.

Take a weekend away, a little mini moon or something of that sort.

Just sit down on your back deck and have a cup of coffee together.

Or go walking around the mall together.

That doesn't mean you have to buy for us.

Just hold her hand the whole time, guys.

To keep us from strolling into the store, right?

Yep, that's it.

Well, how about this?

Have a Bible study together.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And maybe play a board game together.

A card game or uno.

No mercy.

You know, that kind of test your marriage.

Set a time for each other.

And when you do that, guys, it communicates that she's important to you and that you cherish her and treasure her.

Yes.

So just make time.

It can sometimes.

Especially if you've got kids at home and you're busy all the time, that's when you got to say, world, stop.

And maybe all you can do that day is take five or 10 minutes.

That's important because you can make it.

Quality time.

A lot of time that fills that needs.

And you know, a lot of times when you got the little kids in the house, you got to get creative.

May have to go back in the bedroom and.

And whether if they're old enough, they can Watch a video where they got their devices for a few minutes or you've got a babysitter in the house, but just go back and sit down on the couch, I mean on the chair, or depending on or ever how your bedroom is set up or another room in your house and just take that 10 minutes and reconnect and talk about things.

Or find a babysitter that can help you do that so you can just get out of the house.

Linda and I would find when we were both working and the kids were doing their softball and sometimes Jason be playing baseball, Tiffany was playing softball.

Fortunately, volleyball be on the same field.

We would go get our lawn chairs and sit down and watch them play or practice.

And we would use that time as our time just to talk about things.

Yeah, so you got to get creative, especially if you got kids.

But it can be done.

It's not a matter if it can be done.

You have to make, make it a priority to do that.

Is there anything on this area left?

No, I think that that's good.

I want to read though, a little article.

It's called now this is enclosing to our whole series for this.

That's it.

This kind of covers the whole 10 series.

Steps to treasuring your wife.

This is a working mom's prayer and it says here, Dear Lord, give me the strength this day to do all the things I must do.

Please, please Lord, help me to get to work on time.

Even though my 3 year old cries and doesn't want me to leave him, I know I have no choice.

Dear Lord, how do you explain today's crazy economic system to a child?

How do I tell him that daddy doesn't make enough money to support our family so I have to go to work to help pay the bills?

And Lord, keep me from resenting those who add to my guilt by presuming I work because I want to get out of the house.

Most of all, Lord, give me the strength to get all my housework done even though I'm dead tired after a long, hard, stressful day on the job.

And Lord, when my husband yells at me because I'm too tired to wash last night's supper dishes for the sake of my precious child, please give me the self restraint not to walk out the door.

Oh Lord, on behalf of all working mothers everywhere, I ask for four strength, courage, patience and a forgiving heart.

My marriage depends on it.

That's very powerful and it's true because a lot of wives are dealing with some of these issues or all of these Issues.

True.

And so.

So, guys, husbands, through all these different episodes that we've done about treasuring your wife, you know, we said by who or what you give your most time to and how they treat that shows what the number one treasure is in your life.

So our goal and challenge is for you to be able to express that to your spouse.

And if you got some weaknesses, like we all do, that you're going to be able to shore those up and be that man sent by God to your queen, your princess that God's given you to care for and take care of.

Now, here's a big key to all the things we were talking about.

We believe in the Bible and the word of God.

The Bible is our instruction manual.

That's what Linda and I choose to use as our overall instruction manual for being a husband, for being a wife and being a happy family.

In Psalms 128 kind of gives us a little picture that we can stand on.

It says, verse one, how blessed is everyone who fears the Lord.

That's me, that's Linda, who walks in his ways.

It says, God's number one.

You're following his instruction manual to the best of your abilities, and you're trying to be that best husband, that best wife.

It says, when you shall eat the fruit of your hands, it says, as you do these things, it says, you will be happy and it will be well with you.

So we've got the God factor, the anointing God, God working in our lives as we do our part.

He's doing his part, verse three for us right now, says your wife Linda.

For me, say your wife's name as you're driving your car or working out.

Your wife, it says, will be like a fruitful vine within your house.

That means your wife is going to be fulfilled.

She's going to be able to accomplish the dreams that she has.

If she's a mom and got little kids there, she's going to have the strength and energy to do that because God's working in you to be able to provide and take care of her.

And so as you're treasuring her, that means she's going to be able to overcome the fatigue or overcome the situations that's going on.

And because you're working and spending time with her, it says your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your home.

She's going to be fulfilled.

It's not going to be like this other wife.

That's.

This is actually the answer to the working mom's prayer right here.

That you can help your wife not have to deal with all these different issues or y' all can overcome them together.

So put God first, says, how blessed is everyone who fears the Lord.

How blessed are you, husband, because you're able to take care and you're treasuring your spouse, your wife.

And how blessed is your wife going to be because you are the hero.

You are the man sent by God to, to.

To treasure her, to love her, to hold her up, to protect her, to spend time with her and do all the different things we did.

Because you can do it because you love your wife.

Let's pray, Father, as we finish up these episodes on A Man's Treasure his wife, I thank you and I ask right now that for every husband, including me, that you will help us be on the alert as we just read about Satan coming in trying to steal, kill and destroy by roaming around, that we'll have our antennas on to be able to listen to our wife, to see what we need to do to treasure her.

Give us the ability.

Help us be creative, Father God.

Help us learn how to prioritize our time so we can better be a blessing to our wife, Father God, and to our family.

So I thank you, Lord God, as you've called us, to take care of our wives, God, that you give us the ability and as we hear your word, hear these principles and do them.

Your word says we'll be blessed in what we do, therefore our wife.

And if we have children or grandchildren, they're going to be blessed also.

So we thank you for this.

In Jesus name, Amen.

Amen.

Okay, so a couple honeydews.

Number one, think about this, men.

How could you give your wife more undivided attention?

Is there something that comes to the forefront of your thinking as we were talking about that?

Number two, in what ways do you see that you could offer more protection for your wife?

Ponder that.

Think about that.

And, you know, if you're comfortable with it.

Ask her if there's any areas that she feels like she could be protected more.

All right.

And what's the third one?

Three is the ten second kiss.

Find your wife.

If you're doing all the.

If you're treasuring her, she's going to be looking forward to these kisses.

Yes.

So find what she's doing.

Just tell her that you love her, that you're.

She's your prime rib, that she's your.

She's your pearl of great price and that you love her and you just want to give her a good kiss.

Now, wives, you can go back.

If, if you want to start the Tin cats second kiss, you can do that.

But right now I'm talking to the guys.

Pull them up and say, dear, I love you.

Set your timer for 10 seconds.

Give her a good old kiss.

Give her that Dirty Dancing finger that says, come to me.

Yes, my bride, my love.

All right.

Woo her in.

All right.

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