EP 42. Ten Steps to Treasure Your Wife PT 3

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And today we're going to be going into 10 ways to treasure your wife.

It's actually part three.

Part three.

That's right.

We've got a lot of good information still to come on how to treasure your wife.

And and in the previous episode we covered love your wife, develop a passion to meet your wife's needs and to learn how to understand your wife and how to apply all that to treasuring her.

So I would encourage you if you haven't listened to episode 40, which was the introduction to treasuring your wife or 41, which start actually starts the 10 ways to go back and listen to them.

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So now we'll get into number four about from the 10 ways to treasure your wife and number 4s praise her husbands be her number one fan.

You should be applauding her and everything she's she does and we're going to talk about that.

Proverbs 31, 28, 29 says this her children rise up and bless her.

Her husband also and you know I saw that word rise up that means the children and husband are being intentional.

Yeah.

And it says rise up.

I think that represents they're showing respect to the mom and the wife.

They're raising their voice not in raising like man they're just exclaiming you're good mom.

You're an awesome wife.

And as a way of honoring so that's what the rise up means to me.

So anyway it says they rise up and bless her.

Her husband also.

And he he the husband praises her.

That means praises maybe not just once a week he praises her saying many daughters have done nobly but you excel them all.

That's not saying you do pretty good.

But I wish you were like Bob's wife or I wish you were like my mom.

No, you excel them all, Linda.

You excel them all.

Thank You.

Am I getting a brownie point here?

Ah, yes, you are.

Except praise them.

All right?

That also means.

Praise means to give value.

When you're praising something, you're giving it value.

You lift it up.

You lift her up.

You extol, you magnify.

It's to applaud, clap your hands.

Now, this goes past a love language because some people, words of affirmation, words of praise, that's their.

They got to have it, man.

They just crave it.

But every human being, one of them, still wants to be praised.

Yes.

Tell her she looks good all the time, right?

And you know, guys, whether she does or doesn't, you can tell her, oh.

You look great today.

Really?

No, I don't think so.

I'm gonna go change this dress.

We women matter.

Hard for us to take it, but.

Didn'T even get specific.

Say what looks.

Your hair looks good.

I like your earrings, boy, the way you're.

You put your makeup on.

If they wear makeup, the way your hair is comb.

I like it.

When you wear that nightie at night or way you dressed up for church today, you look really good.

Tell her the dress looks nice.

Compliment her any way that you can.

Tell her that, like we said, tell her like she's doing great with the kids.

Or grandkids, if you got grandkids.

She's an awesome cook.

The list could go on.

You know what if she's got outside activities?

Maybe she's involved in a.

A pickleball team.

Be your number one fan that she's the best pickleball player in the world.

Maybe she's got a presentation going on at work that day.

She's doing a.

A presentation and, and she's been studying or getting all ready.

Say, you know what?

You're going to do good today.

You're going to get in there and just knock the socks off those people with your information.

Maybe she teaches a Sunday school class.

Maybe she's teaching a meetup.

Say, man, you know what?

You bring the word of God.

You bring motivation to those students, to your.

To those children in the children's nursery.

Be her number one fan.

In other words, find the good qualities.

Yes.

Catch her doing something good and be specific about it and verbalize it, you know, because a lot of times we'll think about, you know, women and men, we think about, oh, that, that is such a good quality that my husband has.

Or, you know, we're taking it, but this is for the men to treasure their wives.

Yeah.

So tell her.

Don't just think about it.

Verbalize it.

Yes.

And you know what?

Again, this needs to be a habit.

Not just once a month, once a year, Once, one Sunday.

And you don't do anything.

The rest of it, make it part of your lifestyle.

It's a habit, but make it part of an apps lifestyle.

Okay?

Now here's three phases that you can help that this will help you with it.

Okay.

When you're complimenting or verbalizing her strengths, you can say I appreciate you because.

Fill in the blank.

I just, we just put down here.

You could say I can say, linda, I appreciate you because you keep us organized with our calendars.

You help us.

No.

When we have appointments to go to, that's a way you can say I appreciate you.

The next one would be I admire you because and give a reason why you admire them.

I can say to Linda, and I've done it a lot, that I admire her by the way she exercises.

And yet I'm going to brag on her because I'm her number one fan.

Linda is, for the last 13 years, been some very serious chronic pain that we've been working on and God's working in her body, but she is disciplined to get and do her exercises even before we record it.

Today she gets in there and she'll do exercises that is causing pain while she's doing them.

Why?

Because she needs to do that.

I'm going to brag on her for one time a few years ago when after she had her first back surgery, they said the best way to to exercise is get in a pool because it doesn't put weight.

It takes the weight off your body bearing.

And it was cold outside.

We went to a couple of public pools that were covered but not the water's cold.

Fancy gym that had an indoor pool, but the water's still cold.

But you know what she did?

She put on a wetsuit.

She looked like.

I looked like a monster coming out of the water with her snorkel.

She is so determined to exercise because it would help her.

She did that.

I'm sitting on the side the pool.

I say, I ain't getting in that water.

I don't care.

But she did it.

And we would do it early in the morning or the afternoons and then she would struggle taking that off.

Still, still to this day, she gets up and exercises.

She'll do stuff in the house.

She's in pain, but you know why.

She knows the importance and what it's going to do for her life.

But I applaud her for that.

Thank you.

And.

And what not what's another part of it.

Exercising was one of the things that she enjoyed in life.

She was even a Zumba instructor at one point, certified.

And she would need classes.

We actually had a class for ladies exercising in our married and love it Families of Destiny center that we had back in Fort Worth a few years ago.

Well, quite a few years ago, but.

And then the devil, the enemy, tried to steal that from her.

Now, she's not instructing yet, but she's instructing in the word of God.

That's most important.

But she's not letting him steal it.

And she pushes through the pain.

So I admire you, Linda, for all of that.

And I gave you three or four minutes of praise here.

But.

And then another word is to say thank you for.

Well, thank you for an awesome dinner.

Thanks for washing our clothes today.

Thanks for picking up the mail for us.

Whatever it is.

Think of ways to think.

You know, you like it when people recognize you for doing something.

Our wives are no different.

Then here's the big one.

Brag on your wife to other people.

What you just did.

Thank you, dude.

Oh, yeah, that's right.

That's right there.

Yeah.

That's part of my life.

You treasure me and you show it.

Brag on her to others.

If you're out guys or you're at church or somewhere, working people start talking negative about their spouses, don't get in there and chime in with them, say, you know what?

My wife did this.

She does this for me.

And brag on them.

Especially if she's standing there with her man.

That just makes her shine.

But when she's not there, brag on her.

Show her off.

William James said this.

The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.

And that is so true.

Isn't it, dear?

Yeah.

And.

And if, you know, your spouse is like, I.

That's one of the things I like.

I like words of affirmation.

But if you know your spouse is love language.

Is that.

Then you best be doing that because otherwise her love tank is going to be empty.

That's so true.

And another thing that I'm talking about, when people get around the water cooler and start doing stuff, a lot of times men, it seems, want to make their wife the brunt of their jokes.

Yeah.

And to me, that is just not right.

That's not good.

I remember one time we were.

Linda and I were eating lunch with two or three other couples, and we were just talking.

And maybe I was talking about when everybody's sleeping.

I don't know, but the one husband just goes, yeah, we'll be laying in my bed.

We'll be laying in bed and my wife.

Wife just flops her big old fat leg right over on me.

Oh, ouch, ouch.

In front of her.

He was saying that.

Yes.

In front of her.

That's right.

Underneath the table.

Subtle little words.

I mean, he maybe wasn't necessarily making.

That he thought I was funny, but it.

That, that is very painful.

Yes.

So men, please don't make the wife the brunt of your jokes.

Yeah.

So let's move on to number five.

That would be exciting.

Express affection toward your wife.

Now I'm talking about the non sexual touch.

And that would be like holding hands.

You put your arm around her shoulders or her waist.

You sit by her clothes.

You might hug on her or kiss, kiss her or peck her on the cheek or on the hand.

Just something really simple and.

But it, it says a lot, right?

It's really good on top of that too.

Yeah.

Everybody needs that.

But if that's their love language, then what they need to make sure.

Yep.

Physical touch, because that's mine.

Right.

And see, one of my love languages, I think I've developed into that more, but I never.

I wasn't a physical touch, so I withheld maybe some of the basic things needed for Linda.

But when she is that, then that's like double whammy of emptying her.

Her love tank.

Yeah.

Those little things, when you do it in public, what that does is communicate for her and that you're proud of her.

You're.

That you're glad she's there.

You're kind of saying, she's mine, she's the one.

She is all that.

You know, you're telling that to the world.

And you know what?

That, that means a lot to a woman.

So.

Hub and husbands.

Go ahead.

Don't, don't be shy about it.

I mean, you don't want to do pda, you know, but a whole lot of public.

But just something simple like holding her hand or that sort of thing.

And Linda touched on this.

But show your infections in front of people.

Don't be shy to kiss your wife in front of people or hold your hand because like Linda said, that does show that you're theirs and you're hers or whatever and, and do that.

But I remember one time.

But it's also a sign that somebody can be married and happy.

Oh, because I remember one time.

That's a biggie in the world today.

Several years ago, I.

Long time ago, when they used to have bag boys who would load or bag people.

I guess that's politically correct to say, who would carry your groceries out to the car and you'd tip them $0.50 back then, or a dollar, because that was worth a lot more.

But I remember one time, Linda and I were walking out the parking lot and we were holding hands, and this young guy walked out, he says something like, are y' all married or.

Or are you all just getting married?

Just get married.

I go, yeah.

Why?

He says you guys are holding hands.

And that to him.

Yeah, it just threw them off.

Yeah.

So people are watching you.

Yeah.

Kids are watching you, your children, people in church, even.

You know, we talked about one of our episodes where there's a couple in our church.

He came up, and they've.

Now, they've been married over 50 years now.

But we were just standing there talking and.

And here come.

He's standing there talking, and his wife came over and he goes, here comes my sweetie.

Pulls her up to her and gives her a good kiss on the.

The cheeks.

Yeah, it was on the.

Right there in front of us.

Sweet.

You know, we didn't say, go get a room or something.

We got it.

That's it.

That was kind of neat.

It was just a sweet little gesture, and that's cool.

You need to be doing that.

Number six.

Keep yourself fit.

Spirit, soul and body.

You treasure your wife by being and acting like a man sent by God.

You see, your wife may have prayed you in.

Her mom may have been praying you in.

Your.

Your mom may have been praying her in.

But some way or other, you could be that man that was put in her life.

Well, I.

Well, I'm just going to inject here that I have always said Greg is a gift to me, you know, and maybe I'm a treasure and a gift to him.

Yes.

Right.

No complaints there.

I know that Greg is a man sent by God.

I'll man with the plan from the promised land.

Come on in here, bubba.

Yeah.

And see, you may have been prayed in, so you have a responsibility.

John 1:6 says there came a man sent by God whose name was.

Now, it was John the Baptist then, but put your name in there.

You were sent by God.

You were called in by God.

And as Christians, we believe that God can bring certain people into your life.

We don't know.

We don't believe there's only one in the world that's going to be you, but God knows the ones that will be there for you.

All right?

Now, if you don't believe in God, Maybe you can just say you got lucky.

I. I don't know.

Well, Ed Cole, he's a minister, very popular from the past.

And he said that our world, regarding men, he made this statement that our world must have them, women anxiously seek them.

Now he's talking about men being sent by God.

Right, I'm gonna, I'm gonna start that again.

Our world must have them, women anxiously seek them, and children desperately need them.

And I think that is a very true statement.

Yeah, more so this day and time.

See, that's the type of man that a woman needs.

So men, when we're keeping ourselves spiritually in our soul and our body, which we're going to break down when we're.

We're seeing ourselves as a man with a purpose, that's how we.

If we're fulfilling our purpose, that's a way of treasuring our spouse.

Because to effectively treasure your wife, men, you should be strong in these three following areas, because if you're not, you're not going to be able to effectively take care and treasure, Take care of and treasure your wife, that spirit, soul and body.

Now, here's the scripture I like.

It's First Corinthians 16:13.

It says, act like men, be strong.

And that's not saying, go be going out to Planet Fitness and buff up and get real big.

Because there's a lot of guys that are buffed up and real big.

I tell you what, he.

He's not going to get you through the storms.

What's inside?

So it's what's inside.

Now, I'm sure it won't hurt if you have those things.

Yeah, that's nice.

What do you like in the spirit realm?

What do you like in your soul realm?

And what is the health of your body?

And that's what we're going to look like.

So act like men.

Well, you don't have to be perfect men.

You know, that's not going to happen.

But you should always have a goal to be improving, right?

Yeah.

We're not saying here you got to be the spiritual giant.

You don't got to be like your pastor.

You don't gotta have all your emotions all the way in together or you're.

You don't have to be this physically specimen of a human being.

You just got to be wanting to be bettering yourself and be the best that you can be for your wife.

Well, tell, tell me, dear, about being spirit.

What does that mean, spiritually fit?

How can that be done?

Got a couple of scriptures, and this is really Practical, so it's Nothing real deep.

First Corinthians 11.

One says, Follow me as I follow Christ.

So being spiritually fit as a husband is mean.

Be the example.

You should be the example for your wife, for your kids.

Does that mean you're going to be a Bible scholar?

No, it's just you saying, hey, dear, let's have a Bible study tonight.

I'm not really up on all the Bible stories or examples.

If you want to lead it, I'll chime in with this, but let's do it.

In other words, you be the initiator and if your spouse has a gifting in that area or she's maybe a little bit further along spiritually, let her get in there.

It's not a power play, it's you being the leader in the family in that areas.

Another scripture is 13 Acts 13:12, David is 22:22.

It says, David, a man after my own heart will, who will do all my will.

So that means you have a hunger, you want to follow God, you want to be pleasing to God, and you're obeying the Word.

And that part of that word is to treasure your spouse.

So that's part of the spiritual fitness.

And, well, talks about the men, to the men, specifically that, so their prayers won't be hindered.

That's right.

Yeah, that's right.

When you're not.

When you're not treasuring your life and understanding your prayer.

So you.

That's a good reason to be spiritually fit.

But you're.

That means you have a heart after God doesn't mean you're going to be perfect.

And that's what a lot of men get caught up.

Well, I'm.

I'm just not any.

I'm not.

I can't compare to the pastor or to the elders or Bob next door.

He leads all these Bible studies.

No, God's not telling you to do all that.

Right.

He just wants you to grow and learn so you can be like that in your family.

It's not.

You're the whole spiritual package.

Your wife is part of that too.

But a lot of times the wife.

You know, one of the things that wives always talk about as one of their whole desires, they just say, I wish my husband would pray with me.

And it doesn't have to be a big old long, elaborate prayer.

It's not like just vacuuming the floors or washing dishes.

They say this, just pray with me.

Pray with me a minute.

And that means all you got to, hey, dear, let's.

Let's pray.

You know what, if you haven't done that before, you can just say, hey, let's give.

Try it silent prayers.

Yeah, that's a good start.

Even just do a silent prayer.

Pray at the dinner time or just say your family's eating a meal together.

Just start doing it where you're at.

It is probably one.

If you're in a Christian family, probably not in a Christian family.

Today, things are going to.

Just by praying and making that opportunity can have a major impact.

Basically seeking the.

Seeking first the kingdom of God.

Yes.

So pray, study, go to church, operate in faith.

It's hard to lead men if you're not growing yourself.

But let's move into the soul, which.

That would be the mind, will and emotions.

Now in the mind area that.

That basically in a practical way would mean that you know what you want, you're decisive, you have a positive mental attitude.

In other words, get rid of stinking thinking, oh, my goodness.

Now in the will, that would be determination, self control.

Run your race to win.

You know, have some.

Have some strength there, some determination.

Right.

And emotions.

That would be the.

To be stable and not moody.

Not to be irritable or touchy, but especially don't be easily offended.

Don't be wearing your feelings on your sleeve.

Have that air of confidence and stability.

Let me ask you this question.

Do you bring sunshine or darkness when you enter a room?

Yeah.

What is that?

So that's something to keep in mind.

There's one thing I've heard come up recently in the past is called the man pout.

Like a husband's trying to be part of that is trying to initiate sex.

And he gets a.

No, he.

He runs off or goes off and he pouts for three or four hours or for a day called the manpower.

Maybe there's a discussion going on and he doesn't agree with it or he doesn't want to go.

It doesn't go good.

He man pouts silent treatment and just walks around the house sulking.

That's not a man sent by God.

No.

Well, okay, so the next one's going to be physically.

Yes.

To be physically fit, improve your health.

How can you do that?

Well, first of all, let me just say this.

Everybody knows that poor health can definitely interfere with your ability to treasure your wife because then you're not able to do the things that you want and need to do.

So we're really at our best.

And we do our best when we feel good and have some.

Have some energy.

Right.

Yeah.

You know, our health, it affects everything.

It Affects our relationships with our wife, it affects with our kids, with the activities around us, with our emotions basically are affected.

You know, if we're fatigued and tired, well, that's just not going to go well.

No, yeah, our, our physical condition affects everything.

You know, you hear a lot of people say, I am, they're just out of shape.

And they say, I can't even, I can't even get outside and play with my grandkids.

I, I, I, I get winded.

Or they can't play with their kids.

They can't do certain things.

An example for us is, I guess it was back in 2012, 2013, Linda's health started to go down because of the back situation, and I decided to start losing weight in 2013.

I remember sitting on the couch, I was about 60 pounds overweight.

I couldn't even felt like I could breathe real good getting off the couch.

I would get winded on everything.

And that's when I said, you know what?

I've got to do something about this.

I'd already been exercising, but I got zeroed in and got a better plan.

And I, I lost 60 pounds within a matter, about five or six, seven months.

But the benefit of that, besides feeling a lot better because I got off a CPAP machine, if that's the one reason to get off a CPAP machine.

Plus, who wants to have a CPAP machine on?

When your wife rolls over and looks at you, she thinks she's in bed with a Martian.

You know, that's true.

And then you don't have room on your night table for other things.

So I lost weight.

But, you know, what happened is God was preparing me by being in health since 2012, all the way up to now, to be able to be a caretaker for Linda through all the different things that have attacked her body, from the surgeries to heart attack, things she's dealing with now.

I've been the caretaker a lot of times.

I'm still right now doing most of the cooking and cleaning around stuff and doing all these things around the house because she's not able to, to do it.

But if I would, been feeling crappy, 60, probably 80 pounds, but overweight by now, can't able to breathe, blood pressure's up, not feeling good.

I wouldn't be able to do what we're doing.

God's grace came in.

Believe me, God's grace has been there.

But I did my part by being able to be healthy, to do what God's called me to do, to help her and to treasure this has been me treasuring her all these years, taking care of her and.

And such.

But you know what?

That's.

You've been conscientious about your physical being.

Right.

Your health.

And I still am actually it for a family, a woman and.

And even their kids that it can cause insecurities if your family's thinking that you're not going to be there for them.

Right.

Because either sickness or because of the health situations or even death, you know.

Yeah.

Because you had a.

In 99.

A.

Yes.

Horrible car accident.

I mean, you actually died but was revived and the doctor said that he recovered because he was paying attention to his health and he had been that.

That a lot of the recovery time was cut off.

Yeah.

And so improved because of that.

That you'd been weighing back in 99.

I had been trying to lose some weight then.

Didn't weigh as much as I did later, but I've been trying to lose weight.

But Linda and I were walking every day.

Yeah.

That was in the afternoons every day for about a.

Yes.

A good long distance.

And I was going to the gym.

And so what happened is my body was able to heal faster.

See, there's a lot.

There's a lot more reasons to be healthy than just trying to look good in a bathing suit or whatever.

It's.

That's why it's so important to treasure your wife.

You've got to be in shape because you don't know what demands may be put on you physically to do what you need to do to treasure your wife and your family.

But then you mix that with being a stable person, with your emotions, so that you're there.

If your wife's going through some trials and tribulations, some problems.

She needs you to be the one that has the faith.

Speaking, not thinking.

She needs you to say, hey, dear, let's pray.

Because God says, by the stripes of Jesus, you're healed, or you're going to get over what you're dealing with.

Then she needs you to be there, like speaking the word over her, supporting her emotionally in all that area and saying, yes, you can get up and do what you need to do.

See, that's why it's so important.

It's not just to be some romantic guide so you can get in bed with your woman.

You know what?

It's to be there, to be what she needs when she needs it.

And if you wait till that happens, you're going to be way behind the eight ball.

Yeah.

Be proactive in all of this.

Yes.

You know, preventive all right, so finish up the part on physical.

I love this scripture.

Joshua 14, 7, 12.

And this is Caleb.

Joshua has come to him.

It's been another 40, 45 years after they left the promised land, but they hadn't got in.

They left Egypt, but they hadn't got all the way into the promised land.

And Caleb.

Joshua comes to him and says, caleb, you want your mountain?

And.

And Caleb goes, yeah, I want my mountain.

He says, I am as strong today at 85 as I was 40 years ago.

Guys, whatever your age you're at right now, can you say you're as strong as you were or feel as good as you were 40 years ago?

Now, if you're 30, probably not.

That doesn't.

That's the whole thing is he said, I'm ready to go.

He didn't have to go, oh, no, my arthritis is kicking in, and I. I got to lose his weight.

I get tired.

I mean, if he had to march into the promised land and go, I don't know if I can make it.

Give me my camel.

Give me my camel.

Yeah.

You know, or get my people to help me carry.

No, he was ready to go in and fight the giants that were there.

So that's the whole goal.

Think ahead, be ready, and be strong.

All right, well, can you take your mountain?

Yeah, that's right.

Take that.

All right, so in closing, we've covered now.

Love your wife as decent parts of treasuring.

Have a passion to meet your spouse's needs.

Your wife, understand your wife.

That's a continuation story there.

Praise her, give her the affection she needs, and be fit.

Spirit, soul, and body.

Men, we're on a journey here, learning how to treasure our spouse.

And as you begin to implement these things again, go back and listen to the last two episodes.

If you didn't hear those, your wife is going to be a different person, and you're going to be a different man.

So before we get into next week.

We got some honeydews.

Yes.

That we can talk about, right?

Yes.

Oh, oh, oh, I forgot this.

Here's the goal of being physical, physically healthy.

This ought to be for everybody.

Linda doesn't like this one so much, but I.

To me, it shook me when I heard somebody say this, because I just turned 69.

So this one really hits me more.

But it's your goal or.

My goal, when I get to be near 100 years old or whatever, how long we're here, is to be able to get off the toilet without somebody helping me.

There you go.

Think about that.

Yeah.

All right, now your turn, Linda.

Well, well, okay, here's one of the honeydews to do between.

Now, there you go by yourself.

Here's a honeydew that you can pay attention to until we meet again next week.

Evaluate your spirit, soul and body fitness.

Yes, that's a good one.

You know, you don't have to tell anybody about it, but just evaluate it, think about it, maybe journal it, I don't know.

However you want to evaluate it.

Second thing, honeydew, Duda, is what is one way you can show affection towards your wife non sexually.

Okay, okay, that's a good one.

And then number three, catch your wife doing something good and what?

Tell her.

Tell her about it.

That's great there.

You did good podcasting today.

Thank you.

So what is number four?

And that's the last one for today.

The ten second kiss.

Now, here's another reason, guys, to stay in fit, because your kisses may go from 10 seconds to 6, 60 seconds.

You want to be able to stay in the game.

Okay?

So, yeah.

So, guys, ladies, grab your spouse in the morning before somebody goes off to work or starts their chores and say, hey, honey, come here, Siri, set my timer for 10 seconds, give them a good old kiss and see what happens.

There you go.

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I mean, everybody knows somebody.

Yes.

Isn't that true?

That's right.

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