EP 41. Ten Steps to Treasuring Your Wife PT 2

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We're going to be talking Today on episode 41, 10 ways to treasure your wife.

This is part two.

So women, this is, this is something good for us.

The men are going to get to hear how to treasure us.

That's right.

It's going to be good.

And I want to encourage you, if you haven't listened to episode 40, which is the introduction to 10 Way to Treasure your wife, go back and listen to that because it lays a foundation for what we're talking about.

So here's just a couple of little nuggets from the last one to get us going.

Matthew 6:21 says, where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

So your heart is the center of affections, your desires and love.

The treasure is something very much valued.

You know, you can see a guy who's got a new car and he, he washes that car, he keeps it nice and clean.

He doesn't park it under trees.

If you got a garage, it's in the garage.

When you go to work or you go to church at a grocery store, they'll take that car and park it out in the north 40 so nobody bang the doors and get scratches on it.

They carry a rag with them.

They'll wipe it off even if it's not raining.

Because why they're treasuring that that's where they're part of their pride and everything is, well, guys, that's what God's word is saying to us.

Our actions are going to reveal what's in our heart.

So is our wife something that we very much value.

So if that's true.

It's going to be.

Our heart's going to reflect that and people are going to be able to see that and she is going to feel it because we're treating her better than anything else.

So question for you guys, you husbands, what is the treasure of your heart?

Little nugget here.

When I first got married, I was always trying to please everybody but Linda, including my parents.

So I wasn't treasuring her.

That was free information there.

What is the center of your affections, your desires and love?

You know what it's, it's revealed by who you try to please, what you give your time and intention to the most.

Is it always getting the best tea times?

What gives you the most joy or what you talk about the most?

Reveal your treasure.

Proverbs 31:10 says, an excellent wife who can find for her worth is above, far above jewels.

Well, the number one jewel out there, guys, is a diamond.

So God, when you got married, gave you a diamond.

See, when I got first met Linda and we started dating, it's like God's given me a diamond.

And when I realized I wanted to marry her, I realized I've got to take care of her.

I got to show her off.

I've got to like a jewel.

If you take a jewel or raw diamond to the, to the jeweler, they've got this diamond there and they've, they've got to maybe chisel on it a little bit, they polish it, they smooth it, they do all these different things.

They'll clean it and then they'll set it in a ring or they just have it on display if it's real big.

Why?

Because it needs to have care taken to it and you need to protect it.

And that jeweler is going to bring out the, the best value of that piece of rock and then show it off.

So you know what?

God is telling us to do that for our spouse, guys, to, to treat our wife and see the value of it.

It's more than a car, it's more than a game, it's more than our careers.

And Proverbs 27:17 says, Iron sharpens iron.

Now that's to go back and forth.

So one man sharpens another.

Well, in, in the sense of us having our wife as a diamond, God is saying to you guys, you know, guys, you may have married a girl who is sharp.

She's got her act together.

She's, she just above the crowd and the way she acts.

But God's saying, you know what, you help her develop her full potential.

Because he's saying, greg, I put Linda in your hands to bring out the highest value in her, so treat her like that.

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So let's move on let's start the 10 ways to treasure your wife.

Number one is love your wife.

Ephesians 5:25 says, husbands love your wife.

Just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her.

How did he do that?

He died.

And when he was preparing for the cross even to die, he said, lord, not my will, but your will be done.

So you see, men, God is saying to put our wives first, to love them, to serve them, to give ourselves up for them and to be there for them.

And that means the way we're going to when we do that, that's showing them that they are our treasure.

Now, when you said your vows, you remember saying your vows, you said, I'll love you.

Death do you part.

All the little things.

Maybe you made up your own little vows, but I hope you were saying, I will always love you.

Now here's what you're really saying to break down.

Ephesians 5:25.

In Philippians 2, 3, 4, it says, do nothing.

That means nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind.

Let each of you, each husband, regard his wife as more important than himself.

That's a little married and love it.

Translation.

Do not merely look out for your own personal interest, but also for the interest of others.

In other words, love focuses on the one loved with thought of self secondary.

You see, men, God is calling us.

Yeah, we're the lead in the home.

We're the men of the home.

But he's saying, you know what?

You lay down your life to serve your wife, put her number one to take care of her, which we're going to be talking about that more.

That's a big call.

It's a big responsibility because he doesn't tell the wife necessarily to do that to the degree he's telling us to do it.

So focus on her with the thought of self secondary.

Now, I'm going to give a little kind of practical example.

This is several.

Several years ago, Linda and I were at work.

We worked for KCM Ministries.

And every week they had a chapel service for it.

Last about an hour.

And we'd come in and listen to somebody teach.

So we both worked there.

I got over to the session a little bit before her, so I found a nice seat to sit in.

And I thought we could see real good.

But you see Linda, the ac, when it blows on her is not very good.

She gets cold real, real quick, and I need to go get jackets or something.

And a lot of times we have to move.

Well, this time for some Reason I'd never been like this before.

I sat down and said, you know what?

I found us a seat.

We're not going to move.

I'm not going to move.

If she needs to move, we're not going to move.

And I mean, I was literally thinking that I was already prepared.

Premeditated selfishness is a way to put it.

And the chapel filled up, and it was getting fuller.

And finally came, Linda came in and sat down, and everything's okay.

And all of a sudden, click, the AC came on and it was blowing right where we were sitting.

And she goes, dear, can.

Can we move down a few seats?

I probably even see better, too, but can we move down a few seats?

And I go, no, I got in here early.

This is where we're going to sit.

She goes, really?

I said, yeah, this is where we're going to sit.

So I was being the man of the spiritual man in chapel, and then you know what she did?

I got up and I moved.

I said, you want.

You want to sit here?

So I'm sitting there.

How do you think I felt?

You're.

I'm leaving you, buddy.

I'm going down.

Away from the AC blow.

So I had a decision.

Do I sit here and look like a Ding Dong, or do I get up and move down there?

See, that's just a little example, Just a little thing.

But it was.

It's a big thing, but it's how.

How our minds work and how we can work, right?

Because you see, love is a decision.

I made a decision at that point.

I wasn't going to walk in love.

I was going to be selfish.

And that goes against Colossians 3, 14, 16.

So let me just.

I'm going to read that scripture only because it says it better than I can say it.

It says, beloved.

I'm going to say husband.

It says this.

Put on a heart of compassion, a heart of kindness, humility, gentleness, patience.

Guys, I think we all got to work on patience.

Bearing with one another or bearing with your spouse and forgiving her.

And beyond these, it says, all right, you're going to do all these things.

That's good.

You're.

You're doing good.

But he says, beyond all these different things, put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity.

You see, in that chapel service, sitting there saying, I'm not going to move for the air conditioner.

I put on selfishness.

I had what you could say is a coat of selfishness.

And I said, you know what?

I'm comfy in this coat.

I'M going to button it up and I'm going to leave it on and be selfish.

I don't want to move.

What I should have done is said, you know what?

Linda wants to move.

Take off this.

I should have never had it on anyway, but I did is say, all right, I'm going to put on love.

I'm going to make that decision.

Just think about it.

When it's raining outside and you need to get a.

Put on a raincoat or it's cold and you go outside, man, I need a coat on.

So what do you do?

You get a coat and you put it on.

That's the same way you got to see putting on love.

So I should have put on love and said, you know what, dear, let's move down.

Do I need to go get a sweater for you or something?

See, that's putting on love.

You need to take off, guys.

You need to take off anger.

You need to take off being rude.

You need to put on patience.

Maybe you need to put on humility and be kind.

Put on kindness when you're aggravated and such.

So husbands realize this.

You set the high bar, and your family set the love high bar.

All right?

And there's a scripture in first Thessalonians, four chapters and verses nine through ten.

And Paul's talking to the.

The Christians there and says, you know what?

You guys know how to love.

You're doing pretty good at it, no problem.

But he tells them this.

Excel still more.

So, guys, no matter where you're at in your.

In your treasuring your spouse and loving her, Excel still more.

Well, here's some ways that you can show love, men.

Number one is with your words.

You can do that either verbally or written.

And thankfully now with the devices, you can send a text message.

That's easy enough, right?

Don't forget about the sticky notes.

They're nice.

Yeah, they are.

And number two, with your actions.

Actions speak louder than words, and we hear that all the time.

But how about put it into action at.

With your actions?

Me sitting in that seat and not.

Showing me an action, but negative.

Stubborn.

Yeah, Action.

Yeah, that's right.

That's right.

Number three, with your attitude.

Oh, boy, that's a biggie.

Because.

Yes.

Body language or tone of voice that expresses it all.

Yes.

You know, we.

We want to have an attitude of I get to not.

I have to.

And number four would be, listen to what your wife is saying with your what?

Undivided attention.

Put that game.

Video game thing down.

Put that down.

Or put your Phone down or whatever it might be that you're looking at.

Half of your eye is on the TV set with the sports game and half on her.

Well, you know what, with sports, you can always record that and come back to it if she's needing for you to listen to her at that given moment.

Now, what we did a deep dive on these, some of these, and that was in episode 9 and episode 28.

So go back to those episodes and listen to a little bit more information.

Yeah.

That those were talking about genuine love.

Yeah, that's a good one.

So now the next one is develop a passion to meet your wife's needs.

And we've talked about meeting needs in episode 22 in previous episodes.

So realize this, guys.

Number one, you got to develop it.

You may not have a passion right now.

You have to develop.

You may have to work at it.

You may have to decide, you know what I'm going to love.

I'm going to learn to love to meet my wife's needs.

I'm going to develop a habit to me meeting her needs.

I'm going to quit being selfish or lazy, and I'm going to desire to do that.

So realize this.

It's not a chore.

When I do things for Linda around the house, it could be, quote, debt, called a chore.

But I don't see it as a chore because it's not that I have to do it, but I get to do it.

God gave me the privilege of being able to take care of his daughter and to serve her.

See 1st Corinthians 7, 33 and 34.

Talks about pleasing our spouses.

That's something we should desire to do.

You know what?

And sometimes when you have a passion to do that, you do.

It's not in.

It's not convenient.

It can be inconvenient at times.

It can be taking a time away from something you need to do.

So when you have a passion to do that, then you're going to be blessed and that's going to help.

That's going to show your wife as a treasure for you.

Yeah.

Ephesians 5, 9.

It talks about nourishing your wife.

Well, what's the definition of nourish?

Let me just tell you.

To support, to furnish, or to sustain them, to promote their growth, to encourage them to grow.

So be.

Be nourishing to your wife.

Another way is affection.

They might need that affection or conversation, like we talked a little bit with the listening to what your wife says.

They need some honesty and openness from you.

Like maybe they're saying, how'd your day go, dear?

You know, and you're just like, fine, we're good.

Well, how about a little more.

How about a little bit more on that, you know, because we like to.

Talk if your wife is really asking you about how you feel or something in your marriage.

Yeah.

How things are going or what you like or don't like.

Exactly.

By being honest with her, that is meeting her need.

Because if not, you're, you're kind of lying or not being totally truthful.

Well, you're disconnecting from the whole relationship.

And be open.

What are some other areas, dear?

Financial support.

That's a good one.

You know, the bacon.

Bring home the bacon.

Do your best.

You can do that.

Maybe your wife does work also that, that's fine, that's okay.

But you need to be the leader in that.

And then if she's better at doing the books than you are.

Yeah.

Then, then help her do the books.

But keep her updated on what's.

Don't hide things from her.

Right.

And then teamwork, family teamwork.

You know, in all houses, if you're running on a smoothly thing, you may.

The husband's doing this, the wife's doing that.

You maybe got the kids doing some chores.

If you don't have your kids and they're old enough doing chores, shame on you.

You need to get them and teach them.

But they need to be pulling some, some load around the house too.

But family teamwork.

But there's times when maybe one person can't function properly, maybe they're sick, they had to work overtime, something else is pulling them.

Well, then as a team, you jump in and pick up the slack.

Well, by you helping your wife in those areas, especially if you guys got your wife working and you've got kids at home that are school age and they're not able to take care of themselves.

And you come home from work and you're, you're already tired.

And maybe that's not the evening routine you normally do.

But you know what, you look over there and you can see she's.

You can tell by listening to her and see her, she's rung out, the dishes aren't put up.

Maybe from the morning you hear in the dryer go off and the kids are kind of just being kids.

You know what put your intent on say, wait a minute, what can I do to help my wife get through this tonight?

Well, we went into this a little bit more with.

There's a few.

I don't have the Episodes written down.

Maybe we can put those in the show notes.

Right.

But on teamwork, I think there was like two or three episodes that we went into detail on all of that.

But that's a practical way.

If you're having a passion to have your radar on.

On that.

But then also appreciation.

Show appreciation, which we'll talk about that in another one here in a few minutes.

Leadership.

Yep, that's a biggie.

Provide her need for leadership.

Ladies like to be lead it.

Now, we're not going to do lording over all that type of stuff.

We're just being a leader with your character, your actions, your deeds, and being a leader there when the family needs leadership.

Spiritual leaderships, guys.

She most lives would like for their husband to be the spiritual leader, but that doesn't mean you got to come up with a Bible study and you got to do all this.

Maybe she's a little better in Bible study, but you could still say, hey there, let's sit down with the kids and have a few minutes.

Let's sit down and pray this morning.

And then you do it together as a team.

And of course, women need to be romanced.

Yeah.

Learn what romance is.

All right.

Love, we've already talked about that.

Put on love.

We need to be protected, you know, and that may not be just, you know, if someone is in their face about something, but protection, as far as like the woman's schedule, we tend to have a hard time to say no and we want to be there to help out.

So we, we might need someone to guide us in saying, you know what, I think you might have over committed yourself there with your schedule.

So men think about that.

And communication, that's a biggie.

Intimacy, that kind of goes along with the romance and love deal.

And we need support physically, basically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally.

We don't need to have someone saying, you know what, let me fix it.

We just sometimes need to venture.

So men be there to support our venting system.

Times that we just need to vent.

Actually, you know, it's anything in her life that would make her life easier.

Whether it's big or small.

Something, you know, big that counts to us and something small that counts as well.

A shoulder to lean on.

Basically.

Just a shoulder to lean on.

That's a tough one for us guys sometimes because we give them our shoulder, then we get our toolkit out mentally, emotionally, whatever, and try to fix it.

And she just wants to lean.

I just need to lean on it.

Yeah, yeah.

Here's a bonus point.

Yeah.

Before I get to that, I just want to bring up the intimacy part again, because that's your emotional, physical, mental, emotional intimacy.

But guys, I just want to put a challenge out there in the physical regarding the sexual intimacy.

If you're having a passion to meet her needs, you're going to make sure that on the sexual side that you are meeting her needs, that you're not being selfish in that area, that her pleasure is your number one goal, and that will make a big difference in your love life in that area.

So the bonus point is, guys, think ahead and meet the need before your wife even asks for it.

That's something years.

We first got married after a few.

A year to Linda said, you know what, what really impresses me that if you're thinking ahead, if you're one step ahead of me.

So if I see a need that I know she's going to ask or it's important to her, if I can get that taken care before she asks, or she has to ask two or three times, that's a biggie.

So think ahead, be aware of it.

Or if you're walking down the hallway and you see like there's a light bulb off in the hallway or the laundry room and you know she's going to see it, fix it before she even sees it, take action on it.

So what do you do?

You ask about her needs and desires.

You look around and observe what's going on and what she makes comments on.

You listen to her and what her comments and stuff are.

Then take action.

Ask, look and listen.

Yes, and take action.

All right, there we go.

Now something that will really help you with.

This is number three.

Yeah, this is a biggie.

And we did a deep dive on this.

And some of y' all might have already listened to it, but episode 20 and 21, understand your wife first.

Peter 3:7 says, live with your wife in an understanding way in order that your prayers may not be hindered.

Well, it must be pretty important for the husbands to live with us in an understanding way, because if not, their prayers are going to be hindered knowing you don't want that to happen.

Right.

Well, right there.

Just saying.

He's saying you're going to live with your wife, but you need to understand her.

If that wasn't a challenge, he wouldn't have told us about it.

That's right.

And so then another way, you know, a lot of ways frustration is going on in the marriage relationship is because you're not understanding.

You're not, you're misunderstanding.

And to misunderstand is to mistreat.

And then that does lead to frustration.

So husbands, guys, always be learning, beg, listening to what your wife is saying and expressing.

Read books on marriage.

In other words, get the instruction manual out now.

One didn't come with her when you said, I do.

And the wedding gifts.

But the Bible's got good, good instructions in it.

There's marriage books that are out.

There's podcasts, there's seminars, there's videos you can watch.

But study her, learn about her, ask her about it.

You know, one example in our marriage, years ago, this is back.

Kids were pro.

Our kids were about 8 or 9, 10 years old or so.

They were in grade school or somewhere in there, but they were old enough to go outside and play without having to watch them.

And.

And they'd run around the house.

Well, Melinda and I had both been working at the ministry that we were at, and I left to come home and to work on our marriage.

Ministry at that time was called Families of Destiny.

So I was at home taking care of the kids while they were out of school.

That was a.

That's an experience.

And Linda was still working, you know, here.

A lot of times husbands come home from work and maybe their house, their wife got home before them, or maybe they're a homemaker, where they're able to stay home and take care of the kids.

And he'll come on, and maybe the wife has had a wild day and didn't get much done.

At least it looks like that.

And he's like, what have you been doing all day long?

You know?

And then she wants help, and he's like, I don't get this.

And it causes conflict.

Well, I got a good, good taste of this.

So I stay home that day.

It was summertime, so I'm doing all the kids, taking care of them.

And she.

Here you go.

I had noticed a need to replace our kitchen sink faucet because the, the knobs were separate to make it hot and cold water.

We, we wanted.

Linda wanted one with just one knob.

So I listened to her.

I don't.

Can't remember how long she stayed on about it, but I finally decided, I'm going to do it.

So I got in there and said, I'm going to surprise her tonight when she comes home from work.

So I got in there and took everything apart.

Had pipe grease all over the place.

There's tools all over the place.

I did not clean up lunch.

I did not clean up after breakfast, and I did not make the bed that morning because I was focused on this One thing.

So I was working on it.

The kids were running in and out of the house, taking care.

I had to take care of them, make sure they're okay.

And then about 3 o', clock, the phone rang and Linda says, greg, the AC went out at work.

They're closing down and everybody's coming home.

I'll be home in about 10 or 15 minutes.

And my heart froze.

I go, she's going to come in the door.

The kitchen's a mess, the bed didn't get made.

She's going to think, what have you been doing all day long?

The house is a mess.

I would like to be able to say, well, I'm working on your sink here.

But I just froze.

And at that moment, I got a revelation of what the wives experience when the husband, her hero, comes in and gets on her for things not getting done.

Maybe she is at work and she had to work late and he got home before her.

And so how come nothing's done?

Well, she had to work like Ding Dong.

But I got a taste of what it's like.

That was an invaluable experience that I got.

Minerals.

I learned to understand where ladies are coming from when that happens.

All right.

Another point to, to, to look at as we move on is to understand your wife's weaknesses.

What areas is she weak in?

And then, you know what, you help her in those areas.

And, well, and the flip side to that is to recognize her strengths and utilize them.

A lot of times the men think, well, I'm the one that has to pay the bills.

I ought to be the one that tells her how much she has for groceries.

I ought to be the one.

But she's actually better at budgeting and bookkeeping.

Well, men turn it over to her and let her utilize that strength.

Okay, so also learn what makes her tick and what excites her.

Find out about her family background.

Now, that's a biggie for me and Greg because Greg is an only child.

So there was not a whole lot of family background going on there.

But I'm from, from a big family.

So he has had a lot to learn about our family and what actually goes on in our family, which can be pretty fun right there, right?

Oh, yeah, yeah.

And then learn her personality styles, learn her love language, learn all of the excess baggage.

And we've done some deep dive Deep dive episodes.

I'm not sure what the episodes numbers are on this, but we'll include those in our show notes for you.

Now, the whole thing is to be a spy.

Oh, yeah.

Get the intel on how your wife operates.

You know, she's not going to be like Susie Q at work.

She's not going to be like that.

And you shouldn't be paying attention to Susie Q anyways.

We'll get the intel on how your wife operates and what makes her tick.

All right.

All right.

Well, guys, we're gonna stop here, but don't go nowhere because we got a couple of announcements or a couple of homework things to look at and some.

And you never know when we give homework or some honeydews what may come out because a lot of times we put nuggets in there, but we're going to stop there.

So today we covered Love your wife.

Develop a passion to meet your spouse's needs, Your wife's needs.

Make it a passion.

Think ahead of what you can do to meet those needs.

And remember, it's not I have to, but you get to.

And then another one that's very vital.

Linda just finished it off.

Understand your spouse.

And like she said, go back to episodes 20 and 21.

Those are very important episodes on this because I'm not going to go into it.

But this is one of the ones that also almost cost us our marriage because I didn't understand Linda's personality and I put her in a box.

So go back and listen to those.

So.

So you've listened today.

Tune in for next podcast.

We're going to do some more of the the steps to treasure your wife.

So you have a homework question, Honeydews.

How about just become the spy between now and our next episode.

Become the spy and find out some intel on her.

Oh, yeah, you know, that'd be great.

Homework or a honeydew.

Honeydew, yes, that'd be great.

And then surprise her.

What is something that, you know, maybe has needed to be done?

But you're gonna take one step ahead of her.

You're gonna be one step ahead of her.

That's a good one.

And you're gonna change the bulb that's in your salt lamp and get that all fixed up or whatever.

Is that a subtle hand?

No, if you want.

If the shoe fits, wear.

But like example, my closet bar fell and all my clothes came tumbling down this week and I'm like, oh, no, my bar was on overload.

I need to do some clean out.

But I, you know, that actually happened on Sunday and we were headed out to church and I'm like, oh, great.

And so we came home after church and before I knew it, my closet was all fixed and I'm like, because I didn't want my clothes getting all wrinkled and everything.

And so there we are.

My closet was all fixed, so Greg earned bonus points on that one.

Yeah.

Now that's a good example, as we're closing up, is that it fell.

I mean, the bar came off, went in a bracket, broke, and the clothes were coming off the hanger.

That means they're going to need to be ironed or re washed to get any wrinkles out.

But that day we went to lunch after church, we were going to come home because we were running behind on some merit and love and stuff.

So my.

Our plate was full and part of it was getting ready to report, record this podcast and some other things.

But I had to say, you know what, that's Linda's closet.

I've got to make that a priority over this other stuff because it'll have a ripple effect if I don't.

And I know how important it is to have that closet.

So I got in there, just take a few minutes, but I got it done.

Yeah.

And that sends a signal.

It did.

And I got a couple of brownie points probably, but I got it.

The next one is the kiss.

10 second kiss.

All right, y' all know about this.

Y' all know about this.

This kiss is powerful because what is the first thing you did after you guys said, I do.

And you do?

The rings.

I love it.

And the.

The preacher said, y' all are now man and wife.

And you may now what?

Kiss your bride?

Celebrate your union every time you guys kiss.

And you can do this more than once a day.

Develop a habit, Lynn.

And I've got a habit of it.

It only takes 10 seconds.

So one of y' all go, hey, dear, come on over here.

It's time for a good smack.

And set your timer.

If you haven't figured out how long 10 seconds is, set it.

And y' all smooth for 10 seconds.

Sometimes it may be a little type kiss, or it could be a good old.

Could lead to something else.

Something else.

Or set the pace for the rest of the day.

That's true.

All right, so get that 10 second kiss.

Well, again, thanks for joining us.

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